Making Good Friends
When I searched a path for having a successful hive blog, I ended up in the answer of engaging with people. At first, I don't care about it that much. I thought the whales are hiding some real trick and giving me something that's not valuable.
Let's talk a little bit about my personal life. I was not that much of a social person. I only have a few good friends. 'Few' means two to three. It's hard for me to ask people the typical questions like "how you doing?" and expect a typical cliche answer from them.
I behaved like some kind of robot most of the times. I only talk when there is some real need. That made lots of problem with my relationship also.
Let' come back to hive talk. After some time I found great bloggers on hive are also talking about building a community and having a good relationship with people. Finally, I ended up finding a way to engage with people.
The first question arose was,
How I am gonna connect with people, who already know I was coming there for their upvotes?
I ignored this question and started texting people. I tried to text some members of discord channels who had a better profile than me. Initially, I introduced them myself asked my doubts about the hive. Most of them ignored it.
Few replied and helped me with my doubts. Even after that, it was also hard. It was hard for me to maintain a connection with them. I just acted like a bot, just questions and answers. I doubted about asking about their personal life's. Lot's of doubts came into my mind.
I mean doubts like;
"Is that good to ask a stranger about how his life is?"
I struggled a lot at that stage. I was searching for answers to connect with people.
Then from one stranger I've met on discord, I got a real answer. I asked him " why it's hard to connect with people on the hive to become a successful blogger?"
His reply was great and really made an impression on me.
He replied,
"It's not easy to find friends 😂"
Yeah. That emoji also came with that. Then I really understood it's not at all gonna help if I try to find people and just ask them to visit my posts. What I needed was not some blind guys to upvote randomly some of my posts. I needed some good friends to grow as a writer.
It's more about finding people with the same taste and engaging with their ideas. The important fact is that people who believe in your talent and ideology are only gonna be staying with you forever. And one of the most important things is that with a hidden intention in mind you can't make one a friend.
I'm not only talking about the case of hive. To have good friends you need to have some common interests and a mind that's completely free from selfish desires.
More than being successful in hive It's about how we find something valuable as a person. Even if my posts are gonna stay low, there will a lot of things I learned from here.
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